Life experiences have molded us into who we are and how we look at life. Life events begin working their magic as a young child and continue to sculpt you into the person that occupies your skin today. It does different things to different people. It depends on the circumstances and perceptions of what you have endured over your lifetime. Your attitude and emotions are a result of the complexities along the way. These life experiences paint a picture of your journey and eventually etch these memories into the crevices of your brain. Finally the synapse fires and bang, we “react” to our life by the trail of experience that has influenced our way.
Who are we?
The Thinker: This person internalizes ever thought or situation before yielding an explanation. They take a moment to examine the past and figure out why things happened the way they did. Then they adapt to the adversities and move on to find more situations to analyze. They need to know why and won’t stop till they find the answers. They need their space to put the puzzle together. Most of the time the thinker is able to clearly deal with a situation as long as there is ample time to sift thru the rubble.
The Quiet Person: They listen. They absorb the past like a sponge and file it away for future reference. They react to the world and blend into the colors of the universe. They exist but go unnoticed. They are a reflection of their past and remain silent to whatever good or bad situations that existed.
The Loud, Obnoxious Person: They need to be heard. They were stifled along their path. They find it necessary to be the center of the universe. Their thoughts flow freely from their brain. They have no filter. They have bottled up energy that needs to be release or they will erupt like Mount Vesuvius. There’s no way of silencing their noise.
The Nasty, Hateful Person: They are bitter from the past. Life has beaten them down and made them tough. Their thick exterior is a shell that they wear to protect themselves from future pain. They have been hurt along their journey. It may be mental or physical, but their bitterness is just a façade to hide their pain.
The Happy Go Lucky Person: The lucky one. Happy go lucky people have had the best past experiences and show the world that life was good to them. They try and share the wealth and treasures of their past but the others don’t know how to interpret their personality or good will.
The Loner: They feel different than the people they surround themselves with. They feel like they don’t fit in. They hide their pain and pretend they like to be alone. Their past haunts them and they don’t know how to express the feelings that swirl around in their brain. They are lonely individuals hidden in the scars of their past.
The Melancholy Person: The sad person who wears their feelings on their sleeve. They have been traumatized in their past. They are stuck in its tangled web. Their past drowns them and pulls them into the blackness of their own mind. They are stuck in a storm of darkness. Their past has trapped them in their own despair and torment.
The Untrusting Person: They question you. They constantly think that everyone has an ulterior motive. They constantly look over your shoulder. Their past has severely burned them and they trust no one, not even their family. They constantly juggle the trust issue. If trust is broken it’s nearly impossible to put the pieces back together again. They remain a prisoner of their past and destroy all hopes of a trusting future.
The Innocent Child At Heart: A perfect blend of innocence and childhood all wrapped up into one. They see the world from the eyes of a child that has grown up in a perfect world where harm and evil forces have kept their distance. They see the good in the world. They remain angelic and innocent in a world filled with terror and pain. Their past has protected them from seeing what the real world can be like. To remain a child at heart requires the use of rose-colored glasses.
The Romantic: A “fairytale” youth usually makes one a romantic at heart. They believe that love conquers all and all is conquered by love. They grew up in a perfect family and had loving and nurturing parents to help them thrive. They wish for a life filled with nothing less than what they experienced as a child.
The Martyr: They have a deep seeded need to be the victim. They inflect persecution upon themselves for their own cause or ideas. They want you to feel sorry for them. They are deep thinkers and struggle with the martyr complex. A martyr endures a plethora of suffering and does so to get others to understand his mission. Martyrs may be attention seekers but most have endured a number of painful issues in their past.
Experiences and years of interpretation of those experiences have made us who we are today. We blend in and out of different characters while playing the game of life.
Who are you?
Robin S. Ivany 